Raising kids is one of the toughest and most fulfilling jobs in the world- and one in which you may feel the least prepared. Caring for a child is no easy feat, but there’s also no such thing as a “perfect parent”, just like there is no such thing as a perfect child. Luckily, we can still all be successful parents and help our children become well-adjusted children, who are ready to handle the challenges of becoming an adult. This is the purpose of being a parent anyway.
You can be a good parent is more than one way. Not every adult will parent the same way, and that’s okay! Your parenting skills will be acquired and honed over time. Allow yourself a little bit of slack, especially during the beginning stages. There are a lot of general guidelines parents learn to follow as they continue down the path of parenthood. I will shine a light on some tips and tricks parents can use to improve their parenting skills even further!
Learn To Focus On Your Child’s Positive Behavior Instead Of The Negative
Studies have shown that parents should be intentional about focusing more on their children’s positive behavior rather than their negative behavior. The more you scold or reprimand your child for their behavior, the more likely they are going to repeat this behavior. This is due to the fact that when they receive a lot of scolding, children will start to internalize the belief that “I am a bad child who misbehaves and gets reprimanded”. If they don’t feel motivated to change their bad behavior, it’s likely because it has already become part of their personality. Of course, parents should still inform their kids of their bad behavior, just not yell at or belittle them. Furthermore, effective parents will understand that the better approach is to acknowledge your child’s good behavior when they see it.
Teach Your Children To Focus On Helping Others
All humans, whether your a child or not, find happiness through giving to others. In fact, children actually find greater happiness when they have given to others sacrificially. Research shows that if we overcome our selfish nature and focus on the needs of others we will be happier. The same thing applies to our children- if you want your children to live a joyful, fulling life then teach them to serve others as well as themselves. Involving them in team activities with others will allow them to see the positive impact their making.
Don’t Yell At Your Children
I know this is an obvious one, and most likely something that you’ve already told your self to stray away from. However, children can be endlessly irritating to a certain degree if they so choose it. During times like these, not yelling at your kids can be easier than it sounds. At times like these, instead of trying to control your child’s behavior- communicate with them and try to understand their perspective and feelings with the problem. This is a much more efficient way to get through to your young ones or maybe not so young ones. Using logic reasoning is the best way to make a breakthrough.
Build A Strong Relationship With Your Spouse
I know this option isn’t available for everyone and that’s just fine like I said all parents walk their own path when it comes to their parenting skills. With that being said, an unhealthy relationship can lead to a multitude of problems with communication and overall parenting. Children from low-conflict families are often happier and more successful in the long run, as compared to children from families who typically communicate by fighting or live in an unstable environment. One of the most important things you can do to benefit your children is building a strong relationship with your spouse.
Spend Quality Time With Your Children
There is a big difference between spending time with your kids and spending quality time with them. You can spend time with your children for 7 days in a row by bringing them to church, to school and making dinner. While these are all good ideas, it isn’t exactly quality time.
As a parent, you should try to make the most of your time with your children and be interactive with them. Playing games, telling stories, and making forts are all great examples of being interactive with your kids. This is a special skill that takes patience on the parent’s behalf, but I promise the smile on your child’s face will make it worthwhile!
In spending quality time with your children, you’ll come to understand them more and even enhance your ability to communicate with them. Additionally, they will be able to see you as more of a friend and confidant rather than a disciplinarian.
Set A Remarkable Example For Your Children
As a parent, you are your children’s first and most important role model! You should be accurately representing how you feel about the world when you speak to your child. They will most likely adopt your morals at a young age. If you teach them the wrong things and shield them, problems could arise down the line as they grow older. As it is famously said, a child may learn less from what you say but more from what you do. Be the ultimate role model for your child so they say “I want to be YOU when I grow up”
Be Open To Learning
Most importantly you should keep doing what you’re doing right now! Like most things in life, you will get better and better as time goes on. Keep your mind open and don’t be afraid to try out other parent’s techniques. There isn’t one single road to becoming a successful parent, there are billions of parents out there all using different rules and approaches. You can browse books on parent’s skills or even search the internet for some new quick tips. Just remember there is always room for improvement so you should never stop learning!